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Making love standing up is most achievable when both partners are about the same size. If the man is considerably larger than his partner, insertion and intercourse are possible only with a certain amount of difficulty and determination. Sexual intercourse standing up can be tiring if it is kept up for any length of time (particularly if there is an uncomfortable difference between the couple’s sizes), but owing to the muscular exertion it necessitates, it can considerably increase sexual excitement.

If the man picks up his partner, the greatest amount of exertion is the initial lift. Once he has achieved this, the standing position is not particularly demanding because the weight is evenly distributed between the two partners. From here, making love can continue while standing up, walking or even dancing.

1 To facilitate insertion, the woman should lift one leg, turn it sideways so that her partner can introduce his penis, and then use both legs for support. The vagina then clasps the penis firmly; she can use her pelvis to make strong sexual movements.

2 Once the man is inside, he can lift his partner by placing his hands under her thighs while she firmly clasps her hands behind his neck and holds on to it. She should then cross her legs behind his back and press her thighs around his hips.

3 If both partners are agile, insertion can be achieved after the woman has been raised off the ground. Now t man can move his partner and forth with his hands and alter tempo and motion.

She can entwine herself around his body, gripping with her arms and thighs to distribute some o her weight. Her muscle tension can heighten sexual excitement for both of them

With his legs bent he can freely thrust into his partner

Man

The main benefit of standing positions is the novelty factor, since a degree of agility and strength is required, but they are ideal when the man wishes to dispense with preliminaries. More vigorous thrusting can be achieved if the woman is pressed against a wall or door for extra support.

Woman

Standing positions are useful when the time and place for sex is limited, and when she wants to add some variety to her sex life. She can produce a very powerful stimulation on her vaginal lips and-clitoris if she leans forward a little and bends her knees while her feet are on the floor.

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A woman who can’t reach orgasm during intercourse often wonders if there is something physically wrong with her that prevents her from reaching orgasm. A self-induced orgasm answers that question in a few minutes, and it is here that a vibrator may be truly useful. There is certainly nothing wrong with, and virtually no difference between, an orgasm reached with a vibrator and one reached during sexual intercourse. More importantly, a self-induced orgasm gives the emotional and physical foundation for having orgasms during intercourse.

A vibrator, therefore, can tear down the barriers of guilt, shame and prudery that prevent so many women from finding the sexual fulfilment that they deserve. Some women have for years subconsciously imposed the same kind of paralysis on their sex organs as on their minds. A vibrator provides intense sexual excitement, which is sufficient to overwhelm emotional obstacles, and makes the brain and the genital organs respond explosively in unison.

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Whether sexual intercourse is on the agenda or not, a man’s generalized kissing and cuddling will sooner or later lead to his touching, caressing and kissing a woman’s breasts, nipples and clitoris, and a woman will be encouraged to do the same for a man’s scrotum and penis. Petting, or love play using fingers, is more than just romantic. It is vital to the escalating spiral of sexual excitement necessary for satisfying sexual intercourse.

Masturbation Can be Fun-Masturbation is an option, a way of mutually enhancing a couple’s sexual enjoyment. Masturbation is generally helpful to sexuality in all areas of your life. That doesn’t mean to say that if you don’t masturbate you’re abnormal; you’re not inadequate or deficient.

Remember that masturbation does not reflect badly on your marital sex; in fact, there is some evidence showing that people who masturbate without guilt are freer in expressing their sexuality, more aware of the nature of their own sexual response, and therefore enjoy sex more than those who are guilt-ridden. Moreover, masturbation is a good alternative to intercourse for women in late pregnancy or just after childbirth, or following gynaecological surgery; also, when a man can’t get an erection.

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Physical attractiveness Even though physical appearance is not necessarily at the top of the list of qualities women consider important, most women will confess to being attracted to certain aspects of their partner’s body, though not normally their genitals.

Power and wealth Visible evidence of dominance, which is expressed in today’s world by being in possession of money and status, are turn-ons for the majority of women.

Romance and intimacy Expressions and manifestations of an intimate or romantic interlude such as champagne, moonlight and flowers, are also arousing to most women.

Erotic literature Though women will confess to enjoyment of erotic literature in the form of romantic novels, sexually explicit material, however, has been found also to excite many women.

In terms of the stimuli that excite them, men and women differ markedly. Men, generally, are stimulated by what they see. Women, on the other hand, are very different; as a general rule, they respond very little and very slowly to visual stimuli. Women are more interested in men in the context of their personalities.

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Right before orgasm there is a sense of ejaculatory inevitability for an instant. Many men have described the onset of this sensation as “feeling the ejaculation coming”. From the onset of this sensation there is a brief interval, two to three seconds at the most, during which a man feels the ejaculation coming but is no longer able to prevent, delay, or in any way control the process. This experience of inevitability develops as seminal fluid is collecting in the prostatic urethra, just before the actual emission of seminal fluid begins. While a woman’s orgasm can be interrupted by extraneous stimuli, once initiated, a man’s orgasm cannot be delayed until emission has been completed.

Just prior to ejaculation, the glans may change colour; its mottled, reddish purple colour may become darker. (This is reminiscent of the pre-orgasmic discoloration of the labia minora in a woman.) A drop of fluid may form at the urethral opening of the penis prior to ejaculation. This is not seminal fluid but secretions from Cowper’s glands. The size of the testes increases slightly and they also become elevated. At this point, it is increasingly difficult for the penis to return to its resting state without ejaculation.

Muscle contractions occur at a late stage of sexual excitement and may be involuntary or voluntary, depending on body position. Spasms of a man’s hands and feet can occur — rarely if the man is on top — but more commonly when he is supine.

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